0:01
Welcome to the Commission Queen podcast. Commission queen is for women real estate agents that are craving success and want to do things differently. We talk all things manifesting money, and of course, real estate. I'm your host, Bekkah, Marie. And just like you, I'm a real estate agent, I went from struggling to get clients to making over six figures consistently, while working 15 hours or less each week. And now I coach women like you on how to do the same. Listen for real life examples and tips in every episode on how to massively increase your income and find your freedom with ease. You're here because you're ready to change your life, your business and your financial status. So let's do it. Hello, hello, Queens, it is May and you know what that means. It is manifesting May, the month of manifesting. This is where the month of manifesting came from. Two years ago in 2020, I held a small group of the month of manifesting during May manifesting May, and had such awesome results. It was so cool. So then I created a program called The month of manifesting for the following May and had awesome women in that last year, we had a group chat going and the vibes were so high, I loved hearing everything that people were manifesting. And of course, you know, if you listen to my very first episode, I manifested my million dollar dream home, in the month of May, I didn't close on the month of May, I didn't put an offer in the month of May. But the home came to me. So I was manifesting a second house. So I thought that was going to be like a vacation home or an investment property. somewhere totally different. I didn't think it was going to be a primary home. But I was open to it. It's just about staying open and flexible. And I manifested my dream home. That was the house that I saw when I was younger. And I remember seeing this house and saying I am going to have a house like that one day. And hello, here we are, I am in it right now as I'm recording this podcast. And since I created the month of manifesting program, there have been so many testimonials of awesome manifestations happening, like getting a new car at a major discount. That was their dream car receiving dream clients for their highest listings ever booking that dream vacation that they wanted. I mean, so many, so many fun things. So of course, I love the month of manifesting. And you know that earlier this year, I released the month of manifesting book so anyone can do it anytime. Basically, the month of manifesting is daily activities for you to do to manifest your desires in one month. So it's a different activity every single day. So you can also see like, what activities do you really enjoy and that you want to continue on in your life. So in manifesting May, I love to get the collective together to all do the month of manifesting during May, I think that collective energy is so powerful. And I want to make this the biggest month of manifesting yet. So make sure to click the show notes and click the link to get into the free manifesting may group. This is totally free. Even if you don't have the month of manifesting program or book, get inside to just be in the energy be in the vibes of manifesting your desires this month. Alright, so in this episode, I want to talk about how to get your partner into Manifesting with you like how to get them on the same page. And I'm going to share my tips with you because I feel like I can seriously speak on this. Something I hear all the time is like, Oh, it must be easy for you since your husband is into manifestation. My partner isn't so there feels like there's so much resistance and everything feels a lot more difficult. And I'm like, Oh, look, it is that way now. But it totally has not been that way. So let me rewind and give you a little background on my husband and I. So I started manifesting like getting into reading all the books and all of the things probably when I was 15. And my husband and I met when we were 18 we started dating when we were 19. And we have been together ever since we've been married for seven years. And I would say it's only been like the last two to three years that he has really been in it with me and that I finally feel like we're on the same page with manifesting. I would say when we were dating, it didn't really faze him because we weren't like living together anything. So he would just be like, Oh, okay, yeah, that's cute, whatever. And then when we got married and started living together,
4:58
he's like, Okay, what Ever, you know, just kind of dismissed it if I was talking about it or listening to something or whatever, and not dismissed it in a rude way, but just like, you know, he didn't know about it, he didn't really care about it. And he was definitely definitely skeptical about it. And sometimes he would make like little jokes, whatever. And again, this was not like, in a rude way. It's just how he felt like he had no idea about it. And he didn't really believe it and was just like, okay, yeah, you do your thing, but I'm not into it. So real talk in the beginning of our marriage, this was really hard for me, because I'm obviously very into manifestation. And it's a huge part of my life. And so not having my person understand that and also be into that was really difficult, like it was super hard. And so I would push it a lot like I would push books, and I would push audio stuff and podcasts. And I would talk to him about it all the time about how he should do it. Basically, I
6:04
went at it a totally, totally wrong way. Because every time I was pushing to do it, he was pushing against, right. Anytime you're pushing anything, there's going to be push back. Okay, so if you feel like oh, shoot, like, this is what I'm doing too. Do not worry, this took me too many years to figure out, this was not the way to get somebody into manifestation. So whether you're in a relationship right now, or you plan to be in the future, save these tips, so that you can be saved from all of the frustrations of trying to get your partner on the same page. Tip number one, take the pressure off the whole thing. Manifestation is supposed to be light and fun and all about that energy and attraction peace. And so when you're in this, like, energy, state of being negative, or feeling resentment or frustration against your partner, it's just gonna work against you and your own manifestation process. And it's definitely not going to make them into manifestation. Because they're just going to associate manifestation with something negative, if you are trying to, like push it at them, force it down their throats, you know, those types of tactics, they sometimes feel like that's what we have to do, but they are not going to work, doing those things is not going to speed up the process with getting your partner on the same page as you. So just let go, you know, just letting go have the how how we do in manifestation, let go of how this is going to happen with your partner, just because your partner isn't into manifestation, or at least not on the same page as you with this, it doesn't necessarily mean that they're the wrong person. I mean, if there are a ton of other red flags that are happening, and this, then yeah, of course, you know that that's not the right person for you. But if everything aligns like your values, your morals, your goals, all of the things are aligning, but this is the piece that they just don't seem to be on. It's not making them the wrong person. So just know that this doesn't have to be the deal breaker. And especially if this is a relationship that you've been in for a long time, and you maybe are just new to manifestation, definitely give them time to catch up and see what's going on and create their own relationship with manifesting. Tip number two, and this one might sting a little bit. But it's something that needs to be said something that needs to be heard, is take responsibility for your own manifestation process for your own energy. Look, I have so been there where I have been blaming my energy on my husband, because he wasn't into manifestation. He doesn't understand the energy. And so it's pulling me down like I have been there. And I realized, I am in control of my own energy and of my own destiny, right. So if I believe that I create my reality, then I also create my own energy from within. So being really strong in not letting outside forces be the reason that you're in a negative energy or that you're not manifesting your desires. Take responsibility and stop the blame. And I promise it will change everything in the way that you manifest. Just doing these two tips alone will transform your relationship, just letting go of the pressure of things and taking responsibility for your own energy. You'll already get results just by those two things, but I have a couple of other great tips for you. Next tip. Leave your manifestation books around the house or journaling or or anything that has to do with it. And here's the big one. Listen to audios like audiobooks or podcasts, or you know, affirmation things, whatever it is that you love about manifesting different audios. And listen to those around the house just innocently right as you're doing dishes, or as you're like working on your laptop, or doing errands or maybe in the car. And don't make it a big deal of like, Hey, you should listen to this. But just listen to it on your own time one, because you are totally going to love that. And it's going to add to your energy, when if your partner is in the house and within earshot, they're going to start listening to those things, too. It's just an easy way to again, taking the pressure off, and just having it in the house or in the car, and they're going to listen to it, they're going to start forming their own thoughts on it. And they're probably going to start seeing results and seeing how those different things show up in their own life. Now remember, this can be a slow progression, because even though I did this for years, it started where my husband was like, Oh, you're listening to that book again, or you're listening to that manifestation stuff again. And I just kept positive and it's like, Yep, I love it is in a great. And slowly, he would start to actually listen to it with me and tell me about how different things are showing up in his life. So you may get some resistance in the very beginning, but just know, keep doing it. Because it's helpful for you to to have that in your daily routine. Next tip, share your goals or your desires with your partner. So this doesn't have to be talking about manifestation, even though you're obviously wanting to manifest those goals and desires. But really just getting on the path of here's what I set out to create. So let them know your personal goals and come up with different goals and desires that you want to create together. Here's why this is major. When you see wins, like when your partner is going to see when these things happen and how they happen. So miraculously, it's going to light something up in their brain that's like, okay, maybe there is something to this. So share those goals, share those desires, so that they see when those are happening, when those come true, come into your reality, that there is something to this whole manifestation. Lastly, and this one is very important, share your wins, like share the results of how you are manifesting and what you've manifested. And it is made such a difference in how my husband felt about manifesting. And let me tell you, I didn't start getting major results, until I took the pressure off and took responsibility for my own energy. There was so long that I was like, so angry and frustrated that he wasn't on the same page with me that I was not even in a good space to manifest what I desired. Once I took that pressure off, once I started taking responsibility for my own energy, then I was manifesting Wildrose results. That's when my business really blew up. And I went from making hardly any money to making over six figures in real estate and working less and being able to travel all the time. The results showed up quickly. And it seemed too good to be true. And that's when my husband finally was like,
13:39
Okay, what the heck are you doing? This is amazing. How are you doing this I'm in. So just like me, my husband is super passionate about talking about business and the money side of things. So I started to share with him what that looked like and different resources that he could read or listen to, or I would share my findings and different things I was learning and a religious snowballed from there. So he started implementing things, seeing his own results. And since it was something that he was interested in, then it really helped to get his interest in it as well. So find something your partner is interested in and see how manifestation can be implemented in that. So yeah, it took a little time for me at least it took a few years. And now I am so so grateful that I didn't do any forcing, like it's totally on his own that he's created his own experience with manifestation. And it's so wild now because you know, he's the one who is ordering new books of how manifestation of Amazon and he's listening to the podcast and he's getting a business coach that focuses on manifestation. He's talking about how our thoughts are creating our reality on a daily basis and talking about abundance versus lack and all Are these things that I dreamed about for so long, and I just had to let it happen in his own way. So that really, he could own this process for himself. So take the pressure off, it will happen in time, take responsibility for your own energy. This will strengthen your own ability to attract share your goals and desires with them. Create your own goals and desires together, then share your wins and results. And of course, when you're doing whatever you're doing, listen to on loud, your favorite audio books. Like I mentioned before, my husband is into the business and the money side of things. So the books that really turned his perspective around was the secrets of a Millionaire Mind by T Harv. Eker. Another one was, you are a badass at making money by Jensen cero. I remember in 2018, we went on a trip to Grand Cayman, and I just started you are a badass making money and had it on loud. Like as we were getting ready, you're hanging out. And in the very beginning, he's like, do we have to listen to this? And then all of a sudden, there must have been something that he heard that I was like, Okay, this is kind of interesting. And then later, he would ask like, Hey, can we listen to that book. So let go of expectation of like, okay, I'm going to do this, and then they're going to be interested but let go of expectation. But he also you just never know when there is going to be a shift anything, could shift it for them. And those small little acts of having those on or talking about it in a really fun excited way. May you shift the perspective so that they're finally on board with you just let them take it at their own pace and create their own personal journey with it for a while there was this kind of in between phase where my husband was on board with it, but it was more like okay, you manifest it because I know you can do it. And then to see him shift into being an active participator in it and saying, Okay, I am going to manifest everyone's journey is going to be totally different. So be excited about it, have fun with it, and watch it unfold as our greatest manifestations do. That's it for today friends remember to click the show notes and get into the telegram group for manifesting may because I want to have an awesome high energy high vibe may with all of you screenshot this episode and tag me at commission queen or send me a DM and let me know what you loved about this episode. Gratitude and abundance queens. Thank you so much for joining me today. If you love this episode, hit the subscribe button and share a review I so appreciate every one of you. If you're not already following me on social media, you can find me at commission queen and go to commission queen.com To browse products and get more free content
Transcribed by https://otter.ai
