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Welcome to the Commission Queen podcast. Commission queen is for women real estate agents that are craving success and want to do things differently. We talk all things manifesting money, and of course, real estate. I'm your host, Bekkah, Marie. And just like you, I'm a real estate agent, I went from struggling to get clients to making over six figures consistently, while working 15 hours or less each week. And now I coach women like you on how to do the same. Listen for real life examples and tips in every episode on how to massively increase your income and find your freedom with ease. You're here because you're ready to change your life, your business and your financial status. So let's do it.
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Hello, gorgeous queen. I hope your year is starting off. Amazing. My year has been a little bit hectic. And sometimes that happens. So right now I am doing this podcast from my pool because that just felt like the vibe it felt like the right thing to do. And so hopefully the audio is okay, but I am just in the relaxing vibes. And this year I'm choosing joy. Joy was my word. It seems super simple and almost like cliche in a way. But really, I wanted to focus on joy this year. Because we all know that joy is your point of attraction or your feelings are the point of your attraction, like what is being attracted to you is based off of how you're feeling that is your vibe, that is the frequency at which you are vibrating. That is bringing in more and more of those things to you. So I wanted to focus on joy this year and pursue that joy and see what comes from it. Instead of the feeling like okay, what do I have to do? What do I feel like I should do? What do I want to do? What is going to bring me joy? Do I want to podcast in the pool? Is that going to bring me joy? Yes, hell yes. I love that. What else is gonna bring me joy and just following those, like intuition of saying, I'm listening to myself, and I know that I can trust where my desires bring me. I'm calling it my Marie Kondo year, because you know, Marie Kondo talks about organizing your space and organizing your things and asking yourself does this spark joy? And if not get rid of it? That is the exact motto of my year is does this spark joy? Is this bringing me joy? Will this bring me joy, and then going after those things in a really true, authentic way. So one, I have already gotten rid of so much stuff, because it didn't spark joy. So I'm able to happily release it and hope that it sparks joy for someone else. In my new year's ritual episode, I talk about choosing the theme or choosing the word for your year. And so with joy, I like to look at how can I apply that to every area of my life of my life? Or how can this be applied to every area of my life? So one, with my stuff in general, you know, does this spark joy? Okay, that's an easy one. But then I look at how does this affect my health? Okay, I want to focus on things that I want to focus on doing exercises that spark joy, things that I enjoy making foods that I enjoy, focusing on more joy in my relationships in my marriage, in my business business is a huge one, because it's funny, a few years back, when I was finally getting success in my real estate business, a big shift for me was going from doing all the things I thought I had to do to be successful, that I hated. And shifting that into what would I love? What would I enjoy doing in my business, and found great success in real estate? And I want to share with you guys, last year was a great year for commission clean, but I found myself doing a lot of things that I didn't necessarily enjoy. And so this year, I'm focusing on pure joy in commission clean creating a business that I am absolutely obsessed with and love every single thing that I am doing every single thing that I am selling, and I am so oh my goodness. Okay. I have to tell you, I am so excited for what's to come in 2022 for commission clean, I am going to be releasing this thing that I have been coming up with for years and constantly told myself like okay, no, I don't think that that would be a thing. And you know, I don't know if that's even possible, but it keeps coming up for me because I love it so much. It's something that I would love to join and to be able to Create this container for people is beyond exciting. So I have something coming out in my business that is going to be the absolute joy. But so many things with commission queen that I am focusing on, because I want to bring you guys the biggest transformation, I want to bring you joy. And that is going to resonate when you see my content last year because I was doing some things that I didn't absolutely love and nothing bad. And for some people, they do love that. But for me, there are certain things that just didn't resonate. And I want to completely step into joy, I want to step into every single thing that I'm doing in my business I love and some people say that that's like idealistic and not possible. And I just always say yes to that. Because it is possible, it is possible. Yes, there may be some things that you don't totally enjoy in your business. But one, you can delegate those like, you can absolutely delegate those or find a way to automate them so that you don't have to do them, or you don't have to spend a lot of time on them. But if you are continuously doing something in your business, or in your life that does not align with you. And the way that you tell that is by feeling. Does this feel good? Does this feel joyful? Does it feel heavy? Because if it does, if it feels hard, if it feels heavy, it's not for you, it's not aligned, and that's okay. And look at what could I shift? Do I actually have to do this? And then ask yourself again, do I really have to do this until you find out either you have to do it and you can delegate it. Or you can shift something, the activity or whatever it is, and do something instead in place of that activity that you do enjoy. I want you to look at your calendar, and ask yourself, how many things are you doing, that you feel like you should be doing. So that's why they're on your calendar. But you don't really actually have to do them, that maybe they are filling your time, and making you feel good about doing a business activity. But it doesn't help your productivity, it doesn't help. You're getting more clients, it doesn't really help anything. It just makes you feel like okay, well, I'm doing this to fill it in. Let me give you an example. How about office meetings, I used to go to every single office meeting, because I thought I should. And my office doesn't even matter what office, every single office I've ever been at has been very much like pushing people to go meetings, go to meetings, because that is their job. It's their job to get people to the meetings. But that doesn't mean you have to be at meetings, it doesn't mean that you're missing out on a bunch of stuff. If you're not in meetings, it doesn't mean that you are a bad agent, or that you're not going to do as many deals because you didn't go to the meetings. And some people absolutely love going and socializing with the office. And if that is you amazing. Love it, keep doing it. If it's not, you don't force yourself to go. I think a huge blessing throughout this pandemic is finding what really matters and finding how much time you actually need for certain things. And do you actually need to go to all of these different networking groups and different things to socialize and blah, blah, blah? Yeah, if you enjoy them, absolutely, but isn't necessary to your business. Trust yourself in what is bringing you joy is actually guiding you, your feelings, your emotions are guiding you and letting you know, is this aligned? Is this for me? Or is it not. And then if you're starting to feel that it's not trust that trust your intuition, trust your desires, that they are always guiding you. Your time is the most precious resource that you have. Right? You can never get it back. We can never remake it everything. It is the most precious. So make sure that you're treating it that way. Make sure that you're not wasting your time on things that do not matter to you. This is kind of like a ranting episode.
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But I just want to make this so clear, because I see so many people wasting their time on things that aren't important to them, but they're doing it because they think that they should this year several times. I had you know paid for things. I had scheduled things and I was going to different events. And there came a point where like it was serving me and then all of a sudden it was very clear. that it wasn't serving me. So I left. Now here's the thing with the way that society is, I know that this message is going to rub some people the wrong way. I mean, they are going to feel like, okay, this is rude, you've got to stick to your commitments all of that. And while I believe in fully being responsible, and yes, if you have commitments sticking to them, but being brave enough to know that, if it's not serving you, that you can politely ask to, you know, change the schedule, or remove yourself or whatever the situation is, if it's not serving you, if it's not sparking joy, if it's not helping you in your life, and it's just in a way a burden, but you feel like you have to do it, because that you're a good person, and you follow through, what is that doing and how much of your life is being taken up through just feeling like you are committed to these things. And so you can't let people down? Look, I don't want to let people down. But I really, really, really don't want you to let yourself down. Of course, there's different circumstances that you have to stay in. What I'm saying is take your power in all areas of your life. And if you do run into these situations, take your power, say, I am choosing something different. You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to grow, you're allowed to move on, you're allowed to set boundaries. Just be clear with people. I was talking to someone yesterday, and this is kind of what's spurring the conversation here. But I was talking to someone yesterday, and they were saying, you know, I would really love to see you in the office more. And I just said, you know me, like, that's not my vibe, you won't see me, you know, I'm very clear and upfront that I am focused on certain things. And being in the office is not my focus. In past years a comment like that would have gotten me into the office, I would have gone to the office maybe several times a week and continued to do that. Because I felt like I had to be in the office, I felt like I was doing my part by coming to the office like people asked me to, and for what like it just didn't need to. So obviously, the message here is not to do with going to the office, that is just an example. But what is it in your life that you're doing? That takes up a lot of your time and probably on a weekly basis, maybe on a weekly basis. That isn't something you need to be doing that you can change right now. And 2022 you can put the boundary in and say this no longer sparks joy for me. And I am going to choose differently. I'm going to choose what does spark joy for me because I know that's going to bring more and more things that I love more and more things that bring me joy. When you are following your passions when you are following what brings joy to you. You are living not just your own best life, which is amazing and wonderful. But you are being your best self for the entire world. You know that when you are in flow, when you are living out what feels like your purpose and just loving every minute of life, you know that it's better for your family, it's better for your friends, and it's better for the world as a whole is better for your clients. So why not follow that intuition? Why not trust yourself that your joy, your desires are guiding you to a better life. Focus on what can bring you joy right now, not just like, I want this, this and this and then realizing that you don't have it. And so then all of a sudden there goes your joy. Focus on what do you have right now that is bringing you joy, what could you do right now that would bring you joy, focus on those things. And you'll get more and more things that will bring you joy. A few months ago, I read the difference between appreciation and gratitude. And actually, even though we love gratitude and gratitude is so amazing for so many things, but when you're manifesting actually, you should be focusing on appreciation, because gratitude somewhat supposes that there is a lack so you're grateful that you have it instead of not having it appreciation is being an art of whatever it is that you're focusing on. So when you're manifesting focus on appreciation, I mean, try that switch for me it was a game changer and I realized that everything I had manifested totally like my most wild manifestations that I cannot I explained to you how they happened came from appreciation because they were things that I just had totally appreciated. And thought, wow, that's absolutely amazing, you know, just thought was really cool and was not attached to anything. So not attached to having it or not having it just literally being in awe of this situation or thing or whatever it is. So if you have that appreciation, try that this week or this month. Instead of just doing your gratitude. Focus on what can you appreciate what can you appreciate in every single day and see what shows up for you. Miracles will show up for you when you're focusing on that daily appreciation, gratitude and abundance queens and I will talk to you next week.
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